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We can have countless discussions with our girlfriends about the rules of dating and relationships and each of them will have a austere word of caution — how the wrong moves can result in your doom! But the fact remains, that no matter how sure we are about the men in our lives, a relationship is always a gamble. Even if you play by all the rules, at some point in time, you’re bound to come across obstacles. And that’s when you’re going to have to take risks. Yes, we’re talking about taking your ‘chances’ in love. There’s no denying that exploring newer options or pushing the envelope can sometimes put your relationship at stake. But if you’re gutsy enough and willing, it can also lead to fresh possibilities and enhance your bond with your partner. Here are five relationship risks that are the worth the jeopardy.
Ask him out againSo you meet this absolutely charming guy, have a great first date with him and then go back home, without bagging a second date! Why? Because you waited endlessly for him to take the initiative. If you really like him and want to meet him again, why not give tradition a little twist? Dr Anjali Chhabria, psychotherapist, says, “If you ask him out on a second date, the man will find you confident and will like the fact that you have a keen interest in him. He will perceive you as someone who is ready to change the rules of the game and take initiative.” So suggest a second date yourself. Be confident and ask him out. Just make sure you don’t come across as desperate.
Suggest a live-in
After knowing and dating your guy for a while, if you’ve realised he’s the one, instead of directly taking the plunge for marriage, asking him to move in with you is an idea you can contemplate. Why? Because that way, you can invest more in your relationship and at the same time, keep the option of leaving without too much disorder, in case you think it’s not working out.
After knowing and dating your guy for a while, if you’ve realised he’s the one, instead of directly taking the plunge for marriage, asking him to move in with you is an idea you can contemplate. Why? Because that way, you can invest more in your relationship and at the same time, keep the option of leaving without too much disorder, in case you think it’s not working out.
From friends to lovers
A lot of people believe that it’s not a great idea to date a close friend, because of all the complications that may arise. But if you have developed feelings for a friend, why must you miss out on the opportunity of a great relationship, because of conservative stereotypes? Instead of restricting yourself, come clean to your friend and tell him that you want to take your relationship to the next level. The biggest risk here is that if your friend doesn’t feel the same for you, your friendship is going to bear the brunt. But if he’s also willing to give it a shot, this could culminate into one fairytale ending!
A lot of people believe that it’s not a great idea to date a close friend, because of all the complications that may arise. But if you have developed feelings for a friend, why must you miss out on the opportunity of a great relationship, because of conservative stereotypes? Instead of restricting yourself, come clean to your friend and tell him that you want to take your relationship to the next level. The biggest risk here is that if your friend doesn’t feel the same for you, your friendship is going to bear the brunt. But if he’s also willing to give it a shot, this could culminate into one fairytale ending!
Relocate for him
Okay, so this one’s tricky. If he’s not living in the same city/country, and you think that your relationship is getting serious, you may consider relocating or shifting base to where he is. But there are a few things you need to keep in mind before you take this decision. Do you see a future in this relationship? Is he enthusiastic and as involved in this relationship? Weigh all the pros and cons of your decision. There has to be a give and take from both sides. Just keep in mind that just because you are geographically apart, it does not mean you have to forgo a potentially good
relationship.
Okay, so this one’s tricky. If he’s not living in the same city/country, and you think that your relationship is getting serious, you may consider relocating or shifting base to where he is. But there are a few things you need to keep in mind before you take this decision. Do you see a future in this relationship? Is he enthusiastic and as involved in this relationship? Weigh all the pros and cons of your decision. There has to be a give and take from both sides. Just keep in mind that just because you are geographically apart, it does not mean you have to forgo a potentially good
relationship.
Pop the questionLike any committed couple, you both have discussed marriage, kids and a future together. Yet, an actual wedding seems like a long way off? Perhaps it’s because you’re dreaming your guy will bend down on one knee and propose to you. It may not be traditional, but instead of waiting for him to propose marriage, why don’t you do the needful? Dr. Harish Shetty suggests, “It’s perfectly alright from a woman to propose marriage. She just needs to see that the timing is perfect. Also, she must take this decision logically and not get carried away by emotions.” This might just be the loveliest surprise you can give him
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