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	Why Are You Attracted to the Mean Guy? Are you attracted to someone you dislike? Hate the guts out of him, but still find him extremely...

Are you attracted to someone you dislike? Hate the guts out of him, but still find him extremely irresistible don't you? Read on to find out how to best deal with the situation

The alarm beeps non-stop and you spring up of bed with the thought, ‘Damn...late for work so surely will be screwed by my sick boss.’ But what’s weird is the thought that seconds the first one. You end up day-dreaming about that monster of a boss, because he/she’s not just irritating but also irresistible. So what’s it that causes this opposing thought? You are actually a victim of a lust-hate relationship.

Lance Almeida, who is fighting the same problem says, “My boss can be a real b**** at times. She never shows any concern for me as an employee, dumps work on me and often turns a deaf ear to my grievances. But I’ll do anything to win her heart, because I am incredibly attracted to her.” If you face a similar situation in life, let’s try and first anatomise this issue, starting with the reasons why you face the same :

Physical attraction
Your physical attraction for the person in turn becomes a sexual attraction. Psychologist Shrradha Sidhwani says that at times, it is the hatred and resentment for the person that increases the sexual attraction.

Not like me
Psychologist Mansi Hassan says that the reason why you despise the qualities of the person might just be because you, yourself do not have the same qualities. Thus you end up with conflicting emotions.

Love the chase
The fact that you can’t get the person might be what excites you. It’s the chase that gives you a high.
Seeking Negative Attention
Hassan says that some people end up getting attracted to people who make their life miserable. You probably are also someone like that.

What to do?

• Strike a balance. Sidhwani says you should enhance self control and reason that this lust cum hatred for someone could be harmful for you.

• Hassan says that attraction for the person you hate should never become an obsession.

• Figure out reasons why you are attracted to the person. Sidhwani says that instead of creating a false image, get to know the person.

• Sidhwani says that you need to rationalise the long term consequences. Would the person make a good partner?

• Don’t mistake lust for love. This can be extremely harmful. Hassan says, “It is important to realise lust and love are both needed for a happy relation.”