Step One: The Profile Description
A profile is a CV. You can tell a lot about the person with a scan of the language, spelling, grammar, vocabulary, etc. And you don't need to be good in English to do this. It's very easy to see, by just looking at a profile, how much effort and care the 'candidate' has taken in creating it. Lots of mistakes, shortcuts, rambling or no real content shows a person who doesn't really care about the impression he makes, his approach to life. If this is how he treats his attempt to find a life partner, how does he behave generally in life for lesser important things?
Step Two: The Profile Photo
No, this is not about how he looks, but how he presents himself. Photos can be formal (suited, standing at attention, good quality, looking at the camera) or casual (doing some activity, laughing, casually dressed) but both types again convey the care taken to present himself. Does it look like any casual photo just lying around, or has he taken an effort to make himself look good? No photo usually means he's either very insecure about his looks, or doesn't care.
Step Three: The Information
What kind of info does he show about himself? Is he covering the points that will be relevant to the two of you together - his family, his plans, his personality, likes and dislikes, etc? Or is he rambling on about generalities and talking in cliches, creating a rubber-stamp profile that could apply to anyone? Can you create a mental picture of him from this?
If there's too little information, don't try to fill in the blanks yourself. You're setting yourself up for disappointment.
Step Four: Who Made the Profile?
Self-created profiles are the best. It shows that it's actually the person who's taking the effort and it's his personality that emerges. Profiles created by parents or siblings are a danger signal, indicating that he's either technologically-challenged, disinterested, or worst of all, unaware that he's on the marriage market. Subsequent meetings may well contain unpleasant surprises.
Step Five: Are There Deadlines?
Is he putting down time limits, setting dates? That will show there's a date that's more important than finding the right person - in this case, the person doesn't even matter, she just has to show up. That'll be his attitude to life after marriage as well. Another important and critical point related to this will be a clear pushing towards early meetings and getting the process started. It takes weeks, months, even years to really know someone. There are no shortcuts.
How to hook the right guy online:
1) If you're creating a profile, don't go for a paid version on one site; try the free versions on several for a few months.
2) Get a feel of which sites have a more appropriate audience, better screening and filtering, better quality. It's sad but true that a lot of guys use matrimonial sites only to meet women, and not necessarily with the intention of getting married. Some sites will also flood you with inappropriate matches. You have to filter out the ones that don't work.
3) And lastly - don't be in a rush. Whatever your reasons may be for wanting to get married, they won't be good enough to justify getting married to the wrong person. Take your time. If he's serious, he'll respect that. Find out as much as you can about your prospective groom. Be very clear about what you want - what is an unbreakable principle and what you are ready to experiment with. See how your prospects fit with that. Don't get carried away by films, or friends, or the world at large. Stick by what you believe in and are looking for. Sooner or later, you will find it.
And if you don't know how to decide what's important for you - here's a simple thumb rule. Break down everything you want in a guy into three categories. For instance: Rich. Good-looking. Nice person. You can have any two. Now pick.
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