Is it long term or time pass?
Want to know if that handsome guy you've been dating is actually falling for you or just fooling around? Take this simple quiz to judge for yourself if you are reading the signs right
Dating is a dicey game. Sometimes it clicks for the two individuals while sometimes they can by like the two ends of a magnet, never destined to attract each other. But what's even more confusing if the guy you're dating gives mixed signs about exactly how interested he is in you and whether or not he is looking at as a long term arrangement. So girls, here's a quiz that will help you answer the above questions.
Answer these questions:
When does he usually call you asking you out for a Saturday night date?
a) Two weeks in advance
b) Usually by Wednesday or Thursday
c) The day before
d) 10 minutes before he shows up
How often does he call you during the week?
a) Twice a day
b) Three to seven times a week
c) Once a week
d) 10 minutes before he shows up
How often do you see each other?
a) Every day
b) Two or three times a week
c) Two or three times a month
d) Once a month or less
How often do you call him during the week?
a) Huh?
b) I never call him or I return his calls occasionally
c) I call him a couple times a week
d) I call him every day
If you stopped doing all of the work in the relationship — asking him out, calling him, etc — how would it affect the relationship?
a) I have no idea
b) It wouldn't change a bit, he's doing most of the pursuing.
c) It would slow down considerably, I'd probably see him half as much.
d) Relationship huh? He doesn't do much pursuing, so if I stopped calling and making dates, I would probably never see him again.
When he asks you out on a date, who foots the bill?
a) He always pays
b) He usually pays, but I offer sometimes
c) We usually split the check
d) I usually pay for the date
Now tally your answers and rate your score:
Mostly As : Ladies, there's good news. The guy is probably head over heels in love with you. But beware, it's not really a dead give away that he's thinking of the M word just yet. While the eight-calls-a-day intensity is romantic at first, it could also wear you both out and cause the relationship to prematurely crash and burn. Try taking a breather every once and a while to hang out with friends and do your own thing. Absence really does make the heart grow fonder.
Mostly Bs: Your relationship is right on track girls. By calling you regularly and pursuing the relationship, he's letting you know that he's definitely into you. And if he's pursuing you, it means that he is interested. But remember, stay on track, don't lose focus. If the relationship hits a slow point, don't freak out. Stay relaxed and confident, and the relationship is sure to pick up speed again.
Mostly Cs : He's great on a date, and then you don't hear from him for weeks. Well, this guy probably enjoys your company, but something just isn't right here. He's either distracted by another relationship, work, friends, or all of the above. Stop making things so easy for him. If you don't hear from him by mid-week, make other plans and stick to them. Don't make yourself easily available and stop calling him for a while. He'll either step up his game, and put in the necessary effort, or he'll let you know for certain that he's not your guy .
Mostly Ds : Hmm, here's a guy who exhibits all the signs of someone who's just hanging around either for the free food or for the sex, or both. If you stop chasing after him, he'll probably just vapourise into thin air. He's making it clear by his actions that he's waiting for something better. Don't waste your time on someone who doesn't want you. The more time you waste on him, the longer it will take you to find Mr Right.
Dating is a dicey game. Sometimes it clicks for the two individuals while sometimes they can by like the two ends of a magnet, never destined to attract each other. But what's even more confusing if the guy you're dating gives mixed signs about exactly how interested he is in you and whether or not he is looking at as a long term arrangement. So girls, here's a quiz that will help you answer the above questions.
Answer these questions:
When does he usually call you asking you out for a Saturday night date?
a) Two weeks in advance
b) Usually by Wednesday or Thursday
c) The day before
d) 10 minutes before he shows up
How often does he call you during the week?
a) Twice a day
b) Three to seven times a week
c) Once a week
d) 10 minutes before he shows up
How often do you see each other?
a) Every day
b) Two or three times a week
c) Two or three times a month
d) Once a month or less
How often do you call him during the week?
a) Huh?
b) I never call him or I return his calls occasionally
c) I call him a couple times a week
d) I call him every day
If you stopped doing all of the work in the relationship — asking him out, calling him, etc — how would it affect the relationship?
a) I have no idea
b) It wouldn't change a bit, he's doing most of the pursuing.
c) It would slow down considerably, I'd probably see him half as much.
d) Relationship huh? He doesn't do much pursuing, so if I stopped calling and making dates, I would probably never see him again.
When he asks you out on a date, who foots the bill?
a) He always pays
b) He usually pays, but I offer sometimes
c) We usually split the check
d) I usually pay for the date
Now tally your answers and rate your score:
Mostly As : Ladies, there's good news. The guy is probably head over heels in love with you. But beware, it's not really a dead give away that he's thinking of the M word just yet. While the eight-calls-a-day intensity is romantic at first, it could also wear you both out and cause the relationship to prematurely crash and burn. Try taking a breather every once and a while to hang out with friends and do your own thing. Absence really does make the heart grow fonder.
Mostly Bs: Your relationship is right on track girls. By calling you regularly and pursuing the relationship, he's letting you know that he's definitely into you. And if he's pursuing you, it means that he is interested. But remember, stay on track, don't lose focus. If the relationship hits a slow point, don't freak out. Stay relaxed and confident, and the relationship is sure to pick up speed again.
Mostly Cs : He's great on a date, and then you don't hear from him for weeks. Well, this guy probably enjoys your company, but something just isn't right here. He's either distracted by another relationship, work, friends, or all of the above. Stop making things so easy for him. If you don't hear from him by mid-week, make other plans and stick to them. Don't make yourself easily available and stop calling him for a while. He'll either step up his game, and put in the necessary effort, or he'll let you know for certain that he's not your guy .
Mostly Ds : Hmm, here's a guy who exhibits all the signs of someone who's just hanging around either for the free food or for the sex, or both. If you stop chasing after him, he'll probably just vapourise into thin air. He's making it clear by his actions that he's waiting for something better. Don't waste your time on someone who doesn't want you. The more time you waste on him, the longer it will take you to find Mr Right.
Hold a mirror to yourself
Most of us invariably take a look at ourselves in the mirror at least once a day. The mirror diligently and without being judgmental, reflects what is and what is not.
We accept what it tells us without much complaint. We then try to better, in whatever way possible, that which is possible to change for the better and simply accept the rest as given. We take pride in what we have in terms of form, beauty and appearance and try not to dwell too much on what we lack outwardly. We may also resolve and work towards those areas that need to be improved. We step out of the house, with this 'approved' confidence, and are ready to take on the world.
Let's say we are able to hold the mirror to reflect our mind and heart. Chances are that most of us don't make the effort, not so much because we may not know how to do so, but more perhaps because we may not approve of the kind of reflection we might get to see. It may be too much for our ego state to accept. It is never easy to get ourselves to accept what we don't like to see in us, especially that which we cannot actually 'see'.
Imagine a plump person standing in front of the mirror. The person would try to see him self from those angles that are more flattering to him. When we attempt this through a session of meditating in calm abiding, where we are only watching our mind, we will initially try and see our reflected mind from only those angles which our ego state or nurtured mind will encourage us to see. For example we might think "I do get angry, but not so often, so it's OK" or "Yes, I do get somewhat envious when my neighbour buys a swank car and desire the same for myself too, but I don't really keep it in my heart", or we might see ourselves to be someone most humble and put on this act when we are in reality filled with pride.
Similarly, when we try to see our heart in the mirror, our nurtured mind convinces us that we are the most considerate and compassionate of all. In reality, however, we may be sympathetic in some cases but not truly empathetic to all.
All these projections that distort the true reflection is created by ego.
In meditation sessions, we reflect on the clouded state of heart and mind and when we see the pollution, it means we have made a good beginning. Then there is scope for cleaning the mind. With sustained meditative reflection, we are able to observe the mind and heart more and more closely and reach a stage where we are able to see them in their clear state, free of pollution. At last, we come face-to-face with our true nature.
This whole self-cleansing experience takes us on the path to lasting bliss.
Anger, greed, ignorance of our true nature, jealousy, pride, desire, habitual tendencies, mental formations and perceptions can prove to be toxic and so need to be phased out. Destructive thoughts and actions are not worth retaining; they only bring harm and suffering. Since the very purpose of life is happiness, all these negative tendencies must go!
At the onset of the festive season, many of you would soon begin to clean up your homes, throwing or gifting away things no longer needed. Just the same way let us spare some time and effort towards cleansing of the heart and mind and discard the attributes that are useless to us.
We accept what it tells us without much complaint. We then try to better, in whatever way possible, that which is possible to change for the better and simply accept the rest as given. We take pride in what we have in terms of form, beauty and appearance and try not to dwell too much on what we lack outwardly. We may also resolve and work towards those areas that need to be improved. We step out of the house, with this 'approved' confidence, and are ready to take on the world.
Let's say we are able to hold the mirror to reflect our mind and heart. Chances are that most of us don't make the effort, not so much because we may not know how to do so, but more perhaps because we may not approve of the kind of reflection we might get to see. It may be too much for our ego state to accept. It is never easy to get ourselves to accept what we don't like to see in us, especially that which we cannot actually 'see'.
Imagine a plump person standing in front of the mirror. The person would try to see him self from those angles that are more flattering to him. When we attempt this through a session of meditating in calm abiding, where we are only watching our mind, we will initially try and see our reflected mind from only those angles which our ego state or nurtured mind will encourage us to see. For example we might think "I do get angry, but not so often, so it's OK" or "Yes, I do get somewhat envious when my neighbour buys a swank car and desire the same for myself too, but I don't really keep it in my heart", or we might see ourselves to be someone most humble and put on this act when we are in reality filled with pride.
Similarly, when we try to see our heart in the mirror, our nurtured mind convinces us that we are the most considerate and compassionate of all. In reality, however, we may be sympathetic in some cases but not truly empathetic to all.
All these projections that distort the true reflection is created by ego.
In meditation sessions, we reflect on the clouded state of heart and mind and when we see the pollution, it means we have made a good beginning. Then there is scope for cleaning the mind. With sustained meditative reflection, we are able to observe the mind and heart more and more closely and reach a stage where we are able to see them in their clear state, free of pollution. At last, we come face-to-face with our true nature.
This whole self-cleansing experience takes us on the path to lasting bliss.
Anger, greed, ignorance of our true nature, jealousy, pride, desire, habitual tendencies, mental formations and perceptions can prove to be toxic and so need to be phased out. Destructive thoughts and actions are not worth retaining; they only bring harm and suffering. Since the very purpose of life is happiness, all these negative tendencies must go!
At the onset of the festive season, many of you would soon begin to clean up your homes, throwing or gifting away things no longer needed. Just the same way let us spare some time and effort towards cleansing of the heart and mind and discard the attributes that are useless to us.
Tips For Sizzling Sex
Don't try too hard: When it comes to great sex, be natural. Trying too hard will make the process harder as no matter how hard you try to curb it, you will let your partner know that you are trying too hard. This is especially true for men who think if he doesn't try variety, the girl won't enjoy the sack session. So he might just try to pull off tricks that might actually turn her off, since she would realize he is not really into the act.
Don't think too much: There is the concept of Gourmet sex, which is touted to be the most fulfilling and satisfying form of sex. It basically means having sex with a free and easy mind and allowing it to be a satisfying experience. Bed is definitely not the place to think. This especially involves women who are extremely self-conscious of their image. While into the act, she is more busy thinking how the guy will react, or is she looking fat. This kind of stuff will pull you out of the moment and get you into a negative spiral where you become sexually ineffective.
Go for simple moves: Great sex is all about simple moves, done in the right manner at the right time. Yes, you have seen a lot of porn and read a lot of stuff and are highly educated on the variety of postures that a couple can enjoy. Wait a while before putting them to action. Good sex is about learning to feel not just with your hands, but with your finger tips too. It's not just being in-tune with her screams, but even to her breathing.
Do not aim at sexual perfection because no such thing exists. Just go with the flow and enjoy the experience.
Don't think too much: There is the concept of Gourmet sex, which is touted to be the most fulfilling and satisfying form of sex. It basically means having sex with a free and easy mind and allowing it to be a satisfying experience. Bed is definitely not the place to think. This especially involves women who are extremely self-conscious of their image. While into the act, she is more busy thinking how the guy will react, or is she looking fat. This kind of stuff will pull you out of the moment and get you into a negative spiral where you become sexually ineffective.
Go for simple moves: Great sex is all about simple moves, done in the right manner at the right time. Yes, you have seen a lot of porn and read a lot of stuff and are highly educated on the variety of postures that a couple can enjoy. Wait a while before putting them to action. Good sex is about learning to feel not just with your hands, but with your finger tips too. It's not just being in-tune with her screams, but even to her breathing.
Do not aim at sexual perfection because no such thing exists. Just go with the flow and enjoy the experience.
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