Know her dream guy.
Everyone has an idea of the qualities they are looking for in their significant other. So instead of assuming that your creative, artsy friend wants to date a guy just like herself, ask her for her preferences. For all you know, she might want a stable, level-headed guy. Of course, once you begin your search, make sure that she and the date have some things in common too.
Consider various connections.
Think of all the eligible bachelors in your different friend circles. Guys at work, at the gym, in your neighbourhood, friends of friends, cousins - is there anyone who might be a good match? Just be careful when you ask around though. You don't want to make it look like your friend is desperate or easy.
Know the person yourself.
Just because your colleague's brother is looking to get hitched, doesn't mean that your friend is the right girl for him. Arrange to meet the person you plan to set your friend up with a couple of times before they actually go on a date. Ask him what he does for a living, how he spends his free time et al. Strike up a conversation on politics, the weather or anything that will let you know what kind of guy he is. Is he over-opinionated, judgmental, shy, bossy or boring? Would your friend not appreciate such qualities? If yes, drop him like a hot brick.
Show her what she's in for.
Once you've done your homework, it's time to broach the subject with your friend. Tell your friend whatever she needs to know about the potential date. However, you can skip details like 'he's the cousin who used to wet the bed until he was 7' or 'he sported Salman's Tere Naam haircut for the longest time'. It would be a good idea to show her his Facebook page so that she can see what he looks like and who his friends are too. If after seeing this she declines, don't insist that she must go on the date or you will lose face. She deserves the right to choose who she wants to go on a date with, don't you think?
Arrange for a group meeting.
Some people aren't open to the idea of a blind date. Your friend might be one of them. Why not arrange for a group meeting then? This way they can get to know if there's any sense in going on a date. Of course, you might want to hint at your intentions before the start of the evening. At least they'll keep their eyes open!
Don't make the decision for her.
It's easy to think you know what's best for your friend but be sure to leave the decision to her. After all, it's her life. The guy may seem perfect to you but not to her. You don't want to be responsible for any heartbreak, now do you?
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